Niki Taylor, Freelance Writer and Researcher

June 27, 2009

A Fellow MRKH Sister

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I know it’s been ages since I’ve written. I haven’t been inspired to write, but another blog has gotten my butt into gear. http://www.noovenforthebun.blogspot.com/ is written by a woman who also has MRKH which I referred to in http://nikianntaylor.com/2008/08/19/revealing-my-dirty-secrets/ Her blog is very funny and tender as she prepares for marriage and gestational surrogacy.  Even though I decided not to have kids, so many of her feelings echo mine. I applaud her for her honesty as she demonstrates MRKH is not a dirty secret.

As for me, I still have my editing  job. I’m coping with the summer heat. My dream is to live somewhere where the temp does not get above 80. Since my last post, I went to Myrtle Beach before it got so hot and crowded. I also had surgery for an ovarian cyst so it’s me and my one ovary now. Thankfully, my health is fine.

You know I love to talk about the books. I got all the Sookie Stackhouse books by Charlaine Harris and am going through them. I need some cool vampires for this heat. The HBO show True Blood is based on the books. I’ve never seen the show, but usually the books are better than the movies/shows. Have a good summer!

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September 19, 2008

“Monk”ey Business

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My temporary job ended at the end of July, and I will reapply for it at the end of October. I’ve been trying to keep myself busy. In early October, I will be taking a trip to the mountains. In mid-October, I will be “attending” the Muse Writing Conference.
It is an online writing conference featuring different panels. I’ve heard about it for years and am excited to “attend”. I really need a writing boost. I’ve been trying to write during my break, but it’s been slow going.

Currently, I’m reading Mr. Monk Goes to Germany by Lee Goldberg. It is a series of books based on the television show Monk on the USA Network. Adrian Monk is a detective who has obsessive-compulsive disorder. The OCD makes him highly sensitive to his environment which works out well in solving murders but not in his everyday life. While he can find clues the other police officers can’t, his oversensitivity leads to phobias and other hang-ups. The book is written from the point of view of his assistant because Monk would not be able to get past the first paragraph for overanalyzing it.
 
I can relate to Monk because I too have OCD. While I’m not a detective, I have an oversensitivity to the world around me which I try to relay through writing. OCD is more than just worrying about germs and washing hands. The book gives a good explanation: “They(OCD sufferers) interact with the world in an entirely different way than you and I do. They observe the way we live instead of living the way we do.” We will be fine as long we observe the world in helpful ways(crime fighting and writing) and not in self-destructive ways.
 
 
 
 

 

August 19, 2008

Revealing My Dirty Secrets?

My secrets aren’t really dirty. Nothing immoral or illegal. They’re just personal medical details I don’t like to tell about myself. One the one hand, I want to be private and professional, but on the other hand, as a writer, I want to write about myself. Writers are narcissists that way. Actually, ten years ago, I did write about my medical condition as a confused, exhilarated, and scared twentysomething at

www.obgyn.net/women/women.asp?page=/women/articles/comfort/comfort008

 

The gist of the piece is I have Mayer Rokitansky Kuster Hauser Syndrome(quite a mouthful) or more simply MRKH. More details are in the above essay “MRKH Madness“, but basically, I was born with an incomplete uterus, no cervix, and a very short vagina. I’ve never had a period and can not have a child unless I use a gestational surrogate or adopt. What I’ve learned over the years is that the condition is not as important as how I react to it. In “MRKH Madness”, I relayed how I developed anxiety disorder including obsessive compulsive disorder and phobias. I discussed how I overcame the anxiety through therapy and Prozac. So to sound like a cheesy entertainment show, where am I now? I am still on Prozac and have started taken another medication Buspar. I still have anxiety and have chosen to be single and childfree.

Another reason I like to write about this “uncomfortable to talk about condition” is for my fellow MRKH sisters. Since this is a rare condition, there is not much known about MRKH in mainstream medical fields. It is not unusual that many medical professionals have never heard of it. So not only is the diagnosis devastating(especially during the fragile teen years), we often feel alone and freakish.

Here comes the Internet to empower us with not only knowledge of MRKH but with connections to other women with the condition. There are email groups for MRKH women where we can talk about MRKH-related matters such as surgeries, various medical problems, and relationships. It’s Sex and the City for the MRKH set. There are women from teens to menopausal from all over the world including the United States, Canada, England, and Australia. Women have gotten together for meetups, and there is an annual conference in Boston.

I get further justification for writing about this on the Internet when I hear from MRKH women who read “MRKH Madness” as their first online MRKH piece. If I’m lucky enough, maybe someone will read this as their online introduction to MRKH and see the light at the end of the tunnel. To my MRKH sisters, you rock.

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